Staying Connected While Wedding Planning

So you just got engaged and your mind and home are in a flurry of activities. You find yourself swept away by the wave of congratulations, soon accompanied by unsolicited advice,  expectations, and options which demand your immediate decision-making attention. You are soon spread thin amidst the pressure to plan the ‘perfect wedding’, the race to hunt down the best of vendors and making 167 decisions a day, be it flowers, napkin designs, silverware, and more. Result? Frayed nerves and snappy quips between you and your partner!

Abort mission and sit down and take a deep breath! Wedding planning is supposed to be fun, remember? If it is threatening to weight down on your nerves and test your relationship, maybe you are doing something wrong. Retract and analyze and reframe. You got this!

Here we have some more advice (unsolicited, but hear us out!) which will help you glide through your wedding planning activities gracefully while you are still connected to your special one! You can thank us later!

Shared Vision: Before you haul yourself right into the wedding planning activities, sit down with your partner, and talk. How important is the wedding party for you? How involved are you going to be? Do you want a church wedding or a destination wedding? What is the vision for each of you and is there any way to meet in the middle? Talking will leave no room for discrepancies later on, which means no ugly surprises. Starting from that shared vision will set you off to a good start, so we can’t stress on this enough.

Equal Involvement: While it seems more often, that the brides take control of most wedding-related decisions, it is a good idea to ask the groom (or the other partner) for inputs too. A wedding is a collaborative occasion and should depict both parties equally. While chances are that one partner might want to take the backseat and let the other drive most of the decisions, popping in for preferences and opinions every now and then is healthy, so that the least involved party doesn’t feel like they are being overridden and their opinions don’t matter.

Go on Dates: Don’t let everything about your relation be just about the wedding. Keep your dating routine unaffected by the wedding preparations. Every now and then, go out on a date and just enjoy each other’s company and keep the wedding talk away. Continue investing in your relationship and don’t lose sight of what matters. Putting the rest of your life in a pause just because of the wedding might take a toll on your relationship. Keep all ‘wedding talk’ on mute on your dates and just relax!

Perfection is a Myth: Don’t expect perfection because you will be disappointed. Something will go wrong, and you will break down, and trust us, we are not coming from a mean place here. With so many things to be done, its only math is that things will not be perfect. Be flexible and remind yourself constantly that it is okay if things fall short or don’t go as planned. Expect problems and have plan B. Be flexible and figure something out. People will not notice, whether the shade of blue matches perfectly or not but they will certainly notice, thanks to wedding photography and wedding videography, the frayed nerves on the wedding day.

Delegate, Delegate, Delegate: Don’t insist on doing everything on your own. Delegate your bridesmaid, your family members, and friends and they will be happy to help. But holding yourself accountable for a million different things will not only ensure you let a ball slip but might also lead to a very stressed you, which will reflect wrongly on your relationship with your partner. Hire a wedding planner if you have to. Call up your best friend. Ask your partner’s help. Just, don’t do everything on your own.

The wedding day is important and might be the most magical day of your life. But its the marriage which should be the prime focus. A gentle reminder: the wedding is just the celebration of your love while the marriage is for the long haul. We know things can get blurry in the light of wedding planning and a simple decision like the choice of silverware might seem like life or death. But it’s not! So eyes on the prize, people. All that matters is each other. So hold on to each other and this too shall pass.

5 Tips to Ensure Your Wedding Vendors Work Together Fabulously

Weddings are elaborate affairs. They require a lot of planning and preparation. And mostly witness the involvement of third-parties and vendors. Hiring vendors for your wedding preparations is not an easy task. From florists, cinematographers, and decorators to caterers and DJ, the list of vendors is highly important. They are your support system throughout the wedding.

Starting with the research, you have to thoroughly familiarize yourself with their previous works so that you can pick the right one. Once you make your decision for one vendor, it feels like a battle waiting to be won. It becomes relatively easier to decide about the others.

When you finally sign up with all your vendors, things become relatively easier for you. As you share your wedding dreams and delegate, you are tempted to sit back and relax. However, to be sure of all the work completed as per your requirement, you have to keep a watch on the vendors.

To get your vendors to do their work properly and as per your requirements, you have to have a healthy relationship with them as well. It’s all about positivity. There are various ways in which you can have a successful relationship with your vendors. We have compiled a list of some of the most effective ways to ensure you and all your vendors can work in good harmony. Read on to know more.

Be prepared and prepare them, too

Do all your research diligently before you meet up with your vendors. It is always good to be prepared as it implies that you are all into it and are well-informed. Have pictures, links, and other such things ready so that they know what you have in your mind. Also, if their work needs to be coordinated, be prepared, and informed beforehand so that they know what you are expecting from their collaboration.

Communication is the key

One of the most important requirements to have a dream wedding is communicating what you want to the people that are involved in making it come true. Begin with sharing all your wedding details with the vendors. Then move on to ensuring that they communicate well with you too. Be accessible and a good listener so that they are confident about telling you stuff that you should know, especially if vendors have a misunderstanding among each other. Healthy communication between you and the vendors goes a long way to create a friendly professional relationship aimed at the reality of your dreams.

Be honest and encourage honesty

Honesty, if kept everywhere, does wonder. And why should any wedding be a stranger to this fact? After all, the foundation of your marriage is also honesty. Be as honest with your vendors as you can. If you do not like something, tell them. It’s your wedding and you are paying them for their services. They are obligated to provide you with exceptional services. So, if you do not like something, be honest and tell them about what you have in mind. At the same time, encourage them to be honest with you, more so when it’s about other vendors that they need to coordinate with.

Be a gracious bride

As stressful as it might get, remain calm and happy as it’s your wedding! On a big occasion like a wedding, misunderstandings, miscommunications, and other misses are bound to happen. Do not be a bridezilla and let it go, shining through it all. Since there is more than one vendor involved in your wedding, chances are you might take out your frustration regarding one vendor on the other one. And well, you might just scare them away or make things worse for your wedding. It’s crucial to be welcoming, positive, and cordial with all the vendors so that they work in camaraderie.

Put your trust in their work

Trust is the essence of any relationship, professional or personal. Your bond of trust with your vendors goes a long way in making your big day a big hit. Trust them to give their best and work with them as much as you can. If you have selected great professionals after scrutinizing their past projects, trust their capabilities. If you do it with one vendor, chances are the word will spread across others as well. Trusting and letting it go also creates a healthy work relationship which will be evident in your wedding preparations.

It’s highly important to have a great cordial relationship with your vendors for them to give their best. And the more positivity you give, the more it is likely to reflect in their relationships and further interactions with the other vendors. Their camaraderie is the need of the hour. After all, your vendors play a vital role in bringing your wedding dreams to life.

How To Choose A Great Wedding Videographer

Not all videographers are created equal, and of course it’s essential that you choose the best one for your wedding day! Follow these 5 steps to hire an experienced professional to capture your wedding day on film.

1. Make It A Priority

For some reason, videography doesn’t seem to be at the top of everyone’s priority list when booking wedding vendors. But as couples start to realize the value in watching their big day back on film for years to come, top videographers are booking years in advance. So in order to land a talented videographer, make it a priority, right up there with booking a photographer and venue!

2. Browse Local Videos

Resources like The Knot and WeddingWire are great for finding local videographers. Also, don’t be afraid to check out local wedding blogs for great examples, or browse Vimeo for inspiration. You may even be able to find a film from your venue, which is a great opportunity for you to picture your day.

3. Read Reviews

The best way to gain insight into what it will be like to work with a videographer on your wedding day, is to read the reviews from others! Again, The Knot and WeddingWire are great places to look, but also reference Facebook, Google, or even Yelp! Look for detailed reviews that mention how it was coordinating together before the wedding, interacting on the wedding day, and accomodations post-wedding.

4. Ask Questions

Do NOT be afraid to ask your videographer tons of questions! These are some of our favorites!

5. Choose Someone Who Matches Your Style

Most importantly, the best videographer will create films that you absolutely love. When you’re watching different videos, try to pick up on things such as music, audio quality, video quality, and transitions. Jot down notes about what you like (and don’t like) as you watch!